With the context of gender sensibilities and masculinity being redefined over the years, the concept of being a man has changed. Every year, November 19th is designated for celebrating International Men’s Day, but there is hardly any awareness about it.
So, to pay a small tribute to all the men out there, let’s look at how this poem by Ayushmann Khurrana busts stereotypes surrounding men.
Khurrana who is known to take up roles that challenge the very notion of being a hero in the silver screen has won hearts with his stellar performances. In his recent outing as Bala, he was seen struggling with premature balding.
In the recently spoken word poem called “Gentleman kise kehte hain?” (Who is a Gentleman?) written by Gaurav Solanki, Khurrana starts by telling that men are always surrounded by stereotypes.
The actor goes on to say that he didn’t want to be confined to these stereotypes; instead, he wants to be someone who is full of emotions and is able to save someone from trouble.
“Ads on television and parents have asked us to play it all cool and be there to protect the family’s honour. Fathers have asked us to be a gentleman but also said that it’s bad for a man to be gentle,” says Khurrana in the poem.
He further said that women shouldn’t be afraid of men and he is allowed to choose whatever he wants to and not what the society wants him to choose.
The actor said, “There are differences between boys and girls, and these differences are beautiful and I know them. But differentiating them is a crime, I feel! I teach my son that it is not necessary to learn all the etiquettes but to speak whenever you see something wrong is going on.”
The poem is trying to keep aside all the societal stereotypes that men face and he should be allowed to be in his own skin and embrace his strength and insecurities together.
Originally performed for The Man Company, the poem has really enlightened how patriarchy has affected both men and women and the notion of a socially accepted “man” is far more different than being a “real gentleman” who can cry, laugh, sing, dance and be “gentle”.
Photo credit: The Man Company